Just like a lot of guys I used to try and be the nicest guy I could possibly be. I let women walk all over me. I did everything nice you could possibly imagine for them. I gave them gifts constantly, compliments, was just agreeable and so sweet. I figured if I was just nice enough, let her tell me what to do, and made things easier for her. She would realize what a catch I was and grab me right up.
What usually happened instead was she’d wind up going hom…e with some jerk that had treated her like crap after I’d bought her drinks all night. I’d wind up going home alone because she’d stuck me in the dreaded friend zone. Needless to say I was confused. I was doing everything exactly the way women said they wanted and I wasn’t getting any dates or if I did I didn’t get another one.
Another big mistake is to try to find things you have in common. A lot of people will advise you to try and find something in common with her. This is great after you’ve known her for a while. The problem is that when you first meet, and you are fishing for things you have in common, you are digging yourself deeper and deeper into the friend zone.
You are establishing the fact that you are her buddy, her friend, the one she can tell her problems to. Not someone she’ll go out on a date with. Not boyfriend material. You’re just a nice guy. You need to take charge of the conversation. You need to ask her opinion on something. Find out whether you even want to go out with her. Find out if she’s worth the time, if not quit wasting time hers and yours. Move on to another prospect. Don’t be a nice guy.
Some guys try to pretend they aren’t interested in her sexually. Like they’re some sort of eunuch or something. This is a big mistake. While you definitely shouldn’t be giving her compliments, writing her poems declaring your undying love for her, and buying her drinks all night. You have to let her know you are interested in her. After all you are a man. You are supposed to be sexually attracted to her. When you try to hide your interest what you’re actually hiding is your masculinity. Trying to seem not interested will make you appear to be a wimp. She’ll think you’re too shy to know what you’re doing. She’ll put you in the friend zone and go out with the guy who’s more fun and does know what he’s doing.
I’m not saying that it is impossible to get out of the friend zone once you’ve started down that path. But it’s very hard to do and how much better if you don’t arrive in the friend zone in the first place.
Hopefully this advice will keep you out of the friend zone so that you can find love.
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